Let's set the scene for a moment: After a long day at work, your partner asks if you could pick up some things from the grocery store. You're a little tired, but you remember the last time they went themselves—they didn't get half the list because they couldn't find some of the items, so you had to go back to grab the rest of the food. Once you return home from errands, you wind up making dinner since they are a self-professed bad cook. Then you end the night putting away the dishes since your partner proclaims they're not the greatest at loading the dishwasher, so it's better if you start the load.
Pushing off these domestic tasks once in a while isn't a big deal. Perhaps your partner was in a lazy mood that evening, or they had a lot going on at work taking away time from tending to home responsibilities. Totally fair. But if they are consistently demonstrating this behavior, these one-sided actions may actually be weaponized incompetence in action—and a big contributor to domestic inequality.